Tuesday, 2 September 2014

Nursing Strike or Self Weaning?

Osian has seemed to decide he no longer wants breastfed. It's really come out of the blue, and I'm not sure what to do about it. I think it's either one of two things, either self weaning or nursing strike.

A nursing strike is when a baby just refuses to feed. I looked it up and there are various reasons why a baby may go on a strike, such as a cold, ear infection, teething, etc but none of which seem to apply to Osian. A nursing strike is said to last between 2 to 5 days, we are now on the 4th day so I'm starting to rule this theory out, but even so I have been trying to express milk to keep my supply up, but it isn't working out all that great.

As each day goes by I'm getting more and more convinced that he has just self weaned. Which I am now telling myself is a good thing, I was hoping he would self wean when we was ready (although I hadn't decided on an age I would go up to with this) I just wasn't expecting it to be so soon. I still feel like a failure, I set a goal of 12 months for us, which we didn't reach. I was hoping to then move onto cows milk.

I wasn't expecting him to go from four feeds a day to nothing. I wasn't expecting the last time I fed him before his afternoon nap on Saturday to be the last time nurse him. I wasn't ready for this, I wasn't prepared.

The main thing is that Osian was ready for this, it has been his decision. Which is a good thing, I'm glad we stopped when he was ready and I didn't have to stop him when I was. He's happy, he's himself, he's healthy, they're the main priorities, and he's happy with this decision, I will just have to be too.

We have always demand fed and if the demand is no longer there, then there needn't be any feeding.



16 comments:

  1. Oh please don't feel like a failure Catriona! You've obviously done such a great job so fat that Osian is thriving and, like you say, if he's ready then that's because it's right for him. I hope all goes smoothly and you can both enjoy the weaning stage of Osian's childhood. My friend was also devastated to have stopped feeding but she's now having a blast with baby led weaning! Best of luck xx

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    1. Thank you - I'm feeling a bit better about it all now :) xx

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  2. Aw wow I hope you are OK, physically and mentally, it must have come as such a shock! Best of luck with the transition if it is self-weaning, it's great news that he is happy and being himself despite the change. xx

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    1. Thank you, he stills seems very happy so I guess it's okay that it happened xx

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  3. Bless you...I can imagine such sudden weaning being a shock. Don't feel like a failure, you've nurtured a healthy, thriving little boy and should be really proud of yourself xxx

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    1. Thank you. Was quite a shock but I'm getting my head around it now xx

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  4. Well done for doing so well. All mine self weaned but at a much earlier age - you've done an amazing job & it must be hard if you have to make them stop when they don't want to. Well done lovely xxx

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    1. Thank you. That must have been shocking for you too. That's true, I guess it's easier this way xx

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  5. My son self weaned very early. His needs we're being met else where. I wasn't ready though, and is still have regrets I didn't feed him longer, despite him being nearly 17 and and over 6 foot tall! I can completely understand why you feel sad that this part of your relationship has ended and thanks for sharing with #bfingdiaries

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    1. Ohh no :( I hope one day you can let go of the regrets. xx

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  6. A mother should never feel like a failure, especially when the little dude looks so darn healthy! He is SO gorgeous and good luck on the weaning journey!! Thanks so much for linking up with #MMWBH xx

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    1. Thank you! He seems happy so that's the main thing, was just a bit of a shock to start with xxx

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  7. Aawww you have done a great job! Your bubba is healthy and happy, that's the main thing #binklinky

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  8. Aww I can imagine how you must feel. How old is he now?? Xxxx

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    1. It was quite a shock, but seems to be getting better now. He's 10 months! xxx

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