Thursday, 21 August 2014

19 and Pregnant

I have always loved to watch the MTV show '16 and Pregnant'. For anyone who hasn't heard of the show, it’s American show which follows the lives of 16/17 year olds from their pregnancy and labour up until the baby’s a few weeks old.

At the end of most episodes I have seen, the girls talk about the struggles of being a teen parent and how they wish they had waited until they were older to have a baby. I know there’s quite a difference between 16 and 19 (not that I think there's anything wrong with being 16), for one I had finished my A-levels whereas in America at 16 I would have not completed my high school education. For some reason the few odd people seem to expect me to say or think something along the lines of the statement at the end of the episode, but I truly don’t.

Yes maybe getting my degree finished first would have been handy, but all the same I don’t wish it any different. Also being on the property ladder first would have been nice, but that can wait.

I fell pregnant in not the most perfect situation, but it wasn't a bad one. If I had waited until a perfect situation I wouldn't have the baby I have today. I know I would have a different baby that I would love exactly the same, but now he’s here and I've fallen in love with him, I wouldn't wish for it any other way.

I know I'm classed as a young mother, which a few people see as a negative, because some people like to tar everyone with the same brush, and if they hear a bad story about one young parent it means we all are.  But I would like to think that I'm not a bad parent, I try my hardest to be the best I can for my son, and that’s all I can do.

I may regret some things I have done in the past (but seriously who doesn't?), but falling pregnant at 19 will never be one of them.




19 comments:

  1. I was 23 when I had my first and still felt so young but I love the idea that when he's 18 I'll only be 41 which isn't all that old & I'll be able to still go out-away etc xx

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  2. I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when Indiana was born. People may think that's too young but to me it was perfect. I wouldn't change it for the world and Jack and I are still happily together in our own place with a 9 month old! Go us young mummies :) x

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    1. I actually fell pregnant a few weeks before my 19th, but spend most of my pregnancy being 19. Aww that's great! :) Yeah go us!! xx

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  3. i totally echo this. i fell pregnant at 19 (20 when he was born) and now i'm 22 and expecting my second child in a few weeks. i do get the odd snide look but we pay for our babies ourselves and yes, they do have the same dad! i definitely think we get tarred with the same brush x

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    1. Congratulations! :) We defiantly do! xx

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  4. 19 is not bad. I was 16 and now that baby is 16. She has flourished and I did a fine job.

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  5. Lovely! 16 and 18 I was! Mad yeah haha! You're doing a fantastic job xxx

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  6. You do try your hardest to be a good mother and that is what makes you a brilliant mam to my gorgeous grandson and a great daughter to me XXX

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  7. I wanted to be a young mum - not too young. It sounds like you're doing a great job. Thanks for linking up to the #binkylinky

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  8. I think there are good young parents and poor older parents and visa versa. I was quite unprepared to have my son at 24 and could never have coped if I was younger, however my mom had me at 16 and is a fantastic parent. #binkylinky

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  9. I think that no matter what age you are as long as you are ready to be a mother then its right. I can see a very very good relationship between you and your son and that is what matters =) #pocolo

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  10. I completely know where you are coming from feeling like a young mum. I was 21 when I had my first, and although its 2 years older then you were I still had that feeling that everyone thought I was too young. I was already married so it should be none of their business but some people like to share an opinion don't they. I'm now 27 with 3 children, I love them to bits (like any mother) and I'm not ashamed of them at all, but I still get that feeling when someone asks if I have children that they are horrified that I have 3 children and I'm only just 27. #binkylinky

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  11. This is such a lovely post! My friend had her daughter at 16 (she's 20 now) so I have an understanding how hard it can be and people automatically thinking you're a bad parent because of other young mums. Personally, I think it's a load of sh*t and you should be proud of yourself! X

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  12. Sorry haha I forgot to also add in #binkylinky

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  13. There's never an ideal time to have a baby, and you sound like an amazing mother. Having had a baby at 21 and one at 39 I can assure you nature intended us to have our babies when we were young, don't worry about other people. Age has nothing to do with being a good mum! #binkylinky

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