I do not believe somebody's age defines them as a parent. I believe someone's personality does, not how many years old they are.
Being a young Mum I know a lot about how we get judged, I'm constantly getting dirty looks when I'm out and about with my son. I try not let it bother me, I don't want something so petty ruining whatever I'm doing. If I'm honest it does occasionally get to me, it can make me feel quite uncomfortable, what gives a random person the right to make me feel like this? It's my life and my decisions and I do not see how they have any right to judge me. Also I'm sure if we went back a few generations a lot of women would have had babies at 19.
Surley it's an individuals attitude and approach to life that defines what type of parent they are - not if their age ends in teens or early 20s?
I can't count the amount of times I've heard people say how young parents dump their children on the grandparents so they can go and get drunk. I have not had a single night away from my son, with the simple reason I don't want to be apart from him. Even if I had a night or two to myself for a catch up with friends or a date night, would it be a problem? If I turned to my parents as a babysitters would I be dumping my child? If I was ten years older would it just be seen as just having a break... A lot of people I know used to love having a sleepover in their Grandparents' house, it could be a weekly thing, so how do people know that it isn't the child who's asked to go and the parents then use that time they would be away from their child to go out?
Another one I often hear is 'they just get pregnant to get a house' um if someone has it in them to have a child purely for the purpose to get a house why would it just be a teenager, why wouldn't it be an older women too? Why don't they say 'some women have babies just to get a house', rather than 'teenage mums just get pregnant to get a house'. In all honesty I can't imagine someone thinking 'ooh I think I'll get pregnant today and have a baby so I can get a house' but who knows the world baffles me sometimes.
Another thing people assume is that I'm stupid. Why on earth did a doctor feel the need to go outside the hospital to tell my mum some simple information that we understood perfectly? I think we knew what she meant when she was saying to put an extra blanket on our son because his temperature was a few points of a degrees lower than what they liked. For first time parents it's a pretty simple mistake to make considering we get it drummed into us to not let a baby overheat.
My child is loved, fed, clean, kept warm and well cared for. So yes, I may be a young parent, but it sure as hell doesn't make me a bad one.
It's not just the younger mums who seem to get judged as some people seem to judge women who choose to have their children later in life, it's not uncommon for women in their 40s to start a family. Is this a problem? No. What gives anyone the right to judge a parent who has decided to have a child later in life?
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, but even if there was someone would find something about them to judge.
I'm not usually this much of a ranty person, but sometimes I need to just write it all down to make myself feel better.